You Can Experience God’s Blessings in Your Soul
(It’s Different than What you Think!)

William Gaultiere, Ph.D.

Time and again I’ve heard people cry, “God hasn’t blessed me. I ask Him for good things, but it doesn’t help.” Or they complain, “I try so hard to do the right things and to be a good Christian, but it just doesn’t work for me.” Others have tasted of God’s goodness and want more. We all long for God’s favor, don’t we?, and yet it often seems elusive.

What’s the secret? How can we experience God’s blessing in our souls?

The Beattitudes
Jesus answered our question in the “Beatitudes.” Each Beatitude begins with “Blessed are those who…” Jesus makes it clear that God wants to bless us! But he also makes it clear that the life of being blessed by God is not what you think.

For instance, Jesus says that God’s blessing comes to those who are poor, grieving, shy, unfulfilled, and enduring mistreatment. Huh? What’s good about these struggles? Nothing. That’s the point! We want wealth, happiness, popularity, success, and rewards for doing good, and of course we do, it’s natural to want things to go well in our lives, but these are not the deep soul blessings that God most wants to give us. God wants to give us himself - his kind governance of our lives, his abundant and eternal life in our souls, his holy and loving presence with us - and he is so wonderful to us that we can be happy in him no matter what our circumstances.

We got it backwards. We approach God with our problems and say, “Please make my life better.” It’s much the way a young child looks to mom and dad to take care of him or her. We all begin our relationship with God like this. It’s where we start. But it’s not the way to live the life of blessing that Jesus offers. He has so much more to give us and we need to grow into it!

Jesus is offering us the supreme blessing of God’s presence right now, right here, whatever we’re going through, whatever problems or pains are afflicting us, whatever failures or frustrations we’re up against so let’s look up to heaven and open up our hearts to God.

Write Your Own Beattitudes
“ Write a set of Beattitudes for your life,” Dallas Willard challenged me. “Let’s make a list of the challenges you’re facing.” I felt like he was talking to me personally, though he was speaking from my CD player (“The Kingdom of God Teaching Series”). But having met him in person before I could imagine him putting his hand my shoulder and smiling, “I’m serious. That’s what Jesus is after here. He’s trying to show us that the greatest blessing of all is to be a part of the Kingdom of Heaven and it is available to you in the midst of your difficulties. Let’s make a list. What problems do you wish you didn’t have? Are you bald or overweight? Do you have cancer or another health problem? Are you bankrupt, divorced, or unemployed? Jesus would say, ‘Blessed are you with ____________ for yours is the kingdom of heaven.’”

Of course, it’s not a blessing to have a health problem or to be short of money or struggle with any other problem. The blessing is having God, that’s Jesus’ message here.

So I made my list. I had to force myself because my problems that I ask God to solve for me are rather minor compared to some people’s, perhaps yours, but they’re my struggles at this time in life: the house re-model I haven’t been able to do, conflicts with teenage children, irritable bowel syndrome, unfulfilled dreams for my ministry. Then I said “the blesseds" to myself: “Blessed are you Bill with irritable bowel syndrome because yours is the Kingdom of Heaven… Blessed are you Bill with…”

My soul breathed a sigh of relief! It re-focused me on the one thing that matters most in life: Resting in God’s care.

Jacob Shows us How to be Blessed
Living a truly God-blessed life isn’t easy for most people to come to. Like Jacob of old, you have to wrestle with God in the dark and keep struggling even though you’re exhausted, until finally you prevail and are able to take a hold of God’s blessings. Your faith will be tested. You’ll have to take risks. You’ll have to give up things that used to be important to you. You’ll have to think and act and relate in ways that are unappealing and unpopular. And like Jacob you may end up walking with a limp because God’s blessings are received best by the wounded. (Genesis 32:22-32)

Jacob prevailed and received God’s blessing, but not in the way he expected. It wasn’t like it was in his dream where the stair way to heaven was let down before him and angles were descending to escort him. He had to fight. And he had to let go of what he initially wanted from God. Jacob didn’t want to have to face his murderously angry brother Esau, but God didn’t take that problem away from him. Instead, God gave Jacob his presence to be with him as he faced his problem. And Jacob made the blessing of God’s favor the most important thing in his life. He was given the new name of “Israel,” which means, “he struggles with God and prevails.” And he named the place in the desert where he wrestled with the angel, “Peniel,” or “face of God,” saying, “It is because I saw God face to face, and yet my life was spared.”

Is it worth it? Are you willing to wrestle with God for his blessing? Many are not. What they want most in life are things like health, wealth, success, popularity, and pleasures. But the true blessings of God that Jesus is speaking of in the Beattitudes are all matters of the soul - emotional well-being, loving relationships, godly character, and, most of all, God Himself. It’s the blessing of God’s presence is what brings eternal joy and meaning.

If more of God’s presence is what you want and you’re willing to wrestle for it then you’ll appreciate these beatitudes. I think of them as eight steps on the path of Christian Soul Care.

The Path of Christian Soul Care

1. Entrust Your Soul to Jesus. “You’re blessed when you’re at the end of your rope. With less of you there is more of God and His rule.” (Matthew 5:3, The Message)

No matter how hard we try we just can’t be good enough to be acceptable to God. For instance, how many of the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:1-7) have you violated? Have you…

Continually feeding on God in these ways – both in quiet times and in spontaneous moments during the day is how we satisfy the longing of our souls.

Reflect: “O God, you are my God… my soul thirsts for you, my body longs for you, in a dry and weary land where there is no water… Because your love is better than life… I will praise you as long as I live… My soul will be satisfied as with the richest of foods.” (Psalm 63:1-5)

Apply: Every day feed your soul with God by connecting with Him in one or more of these ways.

Pray: O God it is you that I long for. You alone can satisfy the longings of my soul. Open my eyes to see your beauty. Open my ears to hear your voice. Open my heart to receive your grace and truth. Yes, you are here with me, right now, and you go with me. Thank you. Amen.

5. Care for Others. “You’re blessed when you care. At the moment of being `care-full,’ you find yourselves cared for.” (Matthew 5:7, The Message)

What a blessing it is to reach inside your heart and find care for others. Caring means stepping outside of your comfort zone and reaching out to offer compassion. It means resisting selfishness and self-pity and considering others. It means sharing what you can to help someone in need. It means giving because you want to, not because you should or because you need something yourself.

There are so many ways that we can care:

When we express care and kindness to others often they return care and kindness to us! But even if they don’t return the favor we’re blessed by giving. We receive the joy of connecting with someone in need, the wisdom gained from stepping in another’s shoes, the meaning of making a difference for someone, and the honor of being used by God to help another – these are blessings that enrich our lives.

Reflect: “So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work.” (2 Corinthians 9:7-8, NKJV)

Apply: Take inventory of your gifts, personality, time, heart, and money and then look for a job, volunteer ministry, or other opportunity to offer what you have to those in need in Jesus’ name.

Pray: Dear God, help me to see what I have to give and to offer it to others with a caring heart. Help me to see their needs and to feel their pains. Help me care as you care for me. Amen.

6. Worship God, Inside-Out. “You’re blessed when you get your inside world – your mind and heart – put right. Then you can see God in the outside world.” (Matthew 5:8, The Message)

If God’s blessings are elusive to you then probably you have a distorted image of God. You may have projected onto God unresolved painful characteristics of your father or mother, or someone else you looked up to, or your own self. Here are a few examples:

How can you experience the Real God who loves you? How do you put your inside world right so that you can see God in the outside world? By bringing your inner self and feelings into relationship with someone you trust and respect and learning to receive forgiveness for your sins, healing for your hurts, and grace for your needs. When you experience care in these ways from someone you can see and touch and hear then it’s not such a stretch of faith to experience care from the true God of love.

Reflect: “No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” (1 John 4:12)

Apply: Talk to God about your struggles to feel his love and then seek him in this area. Meditate on a healing image of God from the Bible, like Forgiving Father (Luke 16), Good Shepherd (Psalm 23), or Mother Bird (Psalm 91). Or simply pray to Jesus as your Friend, Helper, Healer, Savior, or Master. Then thank God for the specific ways He shows you His love in the Bible, in Jesus, and in the people who you love and are loved by.

Pray: Dear God help me to see your goodness and loving kindness in people and places unexpected. Help me to give and to receive your healing touch. Help me to trust you as my Sovereign Lord and King. Amen.

7. Stay in Community. “You’re blessed when you can show people how to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That’s when you discover who you really are, and your place in God’s family.” (Matthew 5:9, The Message)

We need each other. Just to manage life we need at least one soul mate who we share our deepest needs and longings with. To thrive we need additional friends and the opportunity to belong in a family or community in which God is present. And yet for many people anger problems, fears of intimacy or rejection, control issues, and unresolved conflicts weaken or destroy these precious relationships.

In conflicts it’s so easy to lose our tempers, to find fault with others, to expect that they should change, or just to give up altogether and isolate. But this never solves anything. To get along with others we need to:

         • Listen with compassion
         • Contain our feelings and think before we speak or act
         • Say we’re sorry for our part in a problem
         • Focus on changing our own faults and insecurities
         • Offer forgiveness even when others don’t deserve it
         • Set boundaries on mistreatment and unfair expectations

Relationships like this provide rich opportunities to establish our self-identity and to deepen our intimacy.

Reflect: “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (Colossians 3:12-13)

Apply: Whenever you’re angry with someone don’t react angrily by saying or doing something that is hurtful and intensifies the conflict. Instead, stop and think so that you can calmly verbalize your feelings (not your perceptions of the other) and ask for what you need. Then try to understand the other’s feelings and apologize for any wrong on your part.

Pray: Dear God, help me to give compassion and grace and forgiveness to others just as you have given these to me. Amen.

8. Persevere in Hard Times. “You’re blessed when your commitment to God provokes persecution. The persecution drives you even deeper into God’s kingdom.” (Matthew 5:10, The Message)

Even when we’re committed to God and we’re doing what’s right we will experience pain, injustice, and hardship. Often, it’s because of our Christian faith that we suffer! In these times we’re prone to develop a negative attitude and get angry with God or turn away from Him altogether. Life seems so unfair! God seems far away and his blessings seem unreachable. Instead, we need to persevere through these hard times, maintaining a positive attitude and trust in God. Persecution and suffering are opportunities to find our well-being in God alone.

Our response in times of suffering and persecution is what defines our faith. The challenges are many. Do you…

If we persevere in these difficult times as Jacob did (the one who wrestled with God until he prevailed) and we keep working these beatitudes into our hearts and lives then God’s blessings will come our way. We’ll stand tall as children of the King!

Reflect: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything” (James 1:2-4, NIV).

Apply: Discipline yourself to thank God in the midst of difficult times. Renew your trust in the Lord and ask Him to work good in you through this struggle.

Pray: Dear God, you are always loving and always with me even if I don’t feel this way at times. Help me to trust you in hard times and to cooperate with the healing and growing you’re doing in me. I am proud to be a Christian and I will stand up for Jesus and what is right no matter what the cost. Amen.

William Gaultiere, Ph.D. is the Executive Director of the New Hope Crisis Counseling Center at the Crystal Cathedral and a Clinical Psychologist and Spiritual Director with ChristianSoulCare.com. On his website you can sign up for a free, bi-monthly inspirational e-mail devotional.