Ask Yourself

Is My Husband a Sex Addict?
By Dr. Bill Gaultiere

Does your husband have a problem with compulsive sexual behavior? This is a very painful issue and difficult to sort out. Ask yourself these questions from the "AN ADDICT" self-test for sexual addiction to see if this might be the problem you're experiencing with him.

1.    Alone.  Do you feel disconnected from him during sex? Does it seem that he is unable to be emotionally intimate with you? Or does he rarely want sex with you?

2.    Non-premeditated use. ON-PREMEDITATED USE? Is he abrupt with you sexually, neglecting loving conversation, romance, and foreplay? Have you asked him to change his sexual behavior but he refuses?

3.    Amnesia.  Does he lose track of time or forget appointments or commitments because sex is on his mind?

4.    Depend on the “high.”  Do his moods depend on whether or not he gets sex? Is he angry or irritable if you say no to sex?

5.    Distracted.  Is he preoccupied with sex? Does he stare at other women? Does he frequently make inappropriate sexual comments?
6. I NCREASED TOLERANCE? Does it seem like he's never quite satisfied with sex? That it's never enough?

6.    Increased tolerance.  Does it seem like he's never quite satisfied with sex? That it's never enough?

7.    Conceal supply.  Does it seem like he's hiding something from you? Is he spending lots of time or money that he is unaccountable for? Does he have a stash of porn (magazines, videos, websites)?

8.    Tranquilizer.  Do you feel used sexually? Like he got his fix and you're left feeling hurt, violated, dirty, or abandoned?

Scoring: Three or more "yes" answers indicate that your husband may have a problem with compulsive sex. To better understand what is wrong and to get help consult in person with a doctor or psychotherapist.